Publicerat: 2020-06-02
“Good old boys and girls congregating, waiting in another world with roller coaster brains we´re all crazy”
-Alice Cooper
How to meet inconsistency
The power is yours for the taking
Set your normal concept of time aside for 5 minutes. Imagine that time circular, not linear. What does that mean? Well, an experience you had 30 years ago is happening right now. Weird? Like we said, just give it 5 minutes.
Say
your parents constantly stressed the value of money. Dollars and cents stood
for power, happiness, success, popularity, acceptance, strength. Now say that
you were given money every time you got good grades at school, passed a test,
scored a goal, etc. Money was your carrot. What did you learn? That money is
important and that when you have money, you are important. Now say that your
parents didn’t have all that much money, or that one has a lot and one has
little. Or that they lost money, going from middle to lower class. Maybe they
told you that they couldn’t afford certain things, that they were stressed out
about paying the bills, about making ends meet, and they fought about money.
When you asked if you could get something, you were told they couldn’t afford
it. When this happened, your subconscious interpreted this as being a sign of
your own unworthiness. That you weren’t important. You had been taught the
equation money = importance. And the subconscious, in
all its straightforward simplicity, responds no
money for me = I am not important.
It’s what psychologists call split personalities. Your conscious mind and your subconscious treat each other inconsistently. In the above example, this split looks like this: your conscious mind strives after money, seeing it as a symbol of worth, power, and importance. Your subconscious, on the other hand, doesn’t feel worthy of money – and won’t allow or recognize it.
Power, yo. It’s up to you
Powerless = allowing your subconscious to steer you Powerful = working side by side with your subconscious
You
have around 300 split personalities within you. In each split, one part acts
from your conscious mind, while the other acts out from your subconscious. You
identify with the part in your conscious mind – this is what you call I. Check
this out, though. Your subconscious mind is actually the one creating your
life, making your decisions, and steering you from A to Z.
Another
example: when you were a kid, you were never told that you were smart. While
other kids learned to read and write effortlessly, you struggled. While they
learned other languages and instruments and sports, you lagged behind. How did
this make you feel? Bad. Beneath them. Lower on the ladder of kid life. Maybe
one of your teachers told you that learning was difficult for you, or gave you
a low grade on a test. Then and there, your subconscious started writing a
story entitled: I’m
not good at reading. Maybe
you read out loud in class once and a classmate laughed at you. Someone called
you tone deaf when you tried to sing, clumsy when you tried to join the soccer
team, slow when it was time to run at gym class. Or maybe just the opposite.
You were told that you were smart or cute or nice. Someone reminded you what a
good boy you were when you did your homework, how nice you were when you shared
your stuff, how pretty you looked in a skirt. Truth after small truth, your
picture of the world – and your place in it – took shape. And you worked
your hardest to meet that truth, each and every day.
These
small, seemingly inconsequential stories landed within us, setting up home in
both our conscious and subconscious. At the same time, we learned that being
able to read, write, run fast, sing in tune, score goals, look cute, share our
stuff, get good grades were good things. Valuable, important, powerful stuff.
So, what does
this personality split thing have to do with all that? Well, whenever you want
to identify with something but a part of you won’t allow you to identify with
it – boom crack split. Take smart as an example. One part of you wants to be
smart, as you’ve learned the equation smart
= success, popularity, win win win.
Stupid = excluded, side-lined, left
out in the cold. On
a conscious level, we work hard to be smart. We express ourselves cleverly. But
underneath it all, a big chunk of us just can’t accept that we’re smart and
complicates life for us. How? Maybe by talking in circles whenever answering a
question. One part of you works to be smart – the other part sabotages you
every time you open your mouth. Why? Because neither part of me can accept that
I am smart, but I know that I HAVE TO BE SMART TO MATTER! In the end, you look
like a weirdo – insecure, stiff, and totally out of place. Split personality
deluxe.
Most
of us aren’t even aware of the many splits within us. Once we become aware of
them, we can actually hear the two opposing voices fighting in our brains.
Confused, we act inconsistently. We aren’t even aware our behavior is
inconsistent – it’s just the way we are. Other people see your inconsistencies
so much better than you can. It’s true.
What
you do know is that you don’t feel great. You work at a mediocre job and make
crap money. You stay with someone you’re not really in love with. You hate
where you live. You treat your body not all that well. Inconsistencies are
everyone. Two distinct parts steer one single person. No wonder you feel
confused, stressed out, anxious, frustrated, uninspired, exhausted, and
sometimes even ready to call it quits.
Now that we’ve got all that split personality behind us, we can get to the good stuff. Turning two people into one. Mashing your two parts into one superb you. How? For starters, by listening in on your own internal conversations. And here’s how…
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This is a guest post. Any opinions expressed are the writer’s own.